A little while ago i got out of the shower and I asked my wife if she wanted to have sex. She said she was not interested. So I asked for a HJ. She said that was selfish but she reluctantly agreed. I laid naked on our bed as she started to jerk me off. Her hand got tired so she started to give me a BJ which i was glad she did. When her mouth got tired she went back to jerking me off. After a while she went back to sucking me off. That lasted a short time and she went back to jerking me off. By now I was getting frustrated and removed her hand and started to jerk off with her playing with my balls. That was not working so i got a vibrator to help me cum. It was then that my wife said you could do a better job of this and walked out of the room. I had no luck and decided to quit. I told my wife I could not cum and she said she really tried hard to make me cum. I told her it was not her fault. Since then she gave me 2 great BJs and I JO twice without her knowing it. Yesterday I suggested some sex and she now was not a good time and if i did not do anything by myself, tomorrow would be fine.So i am looking forward to today.

I've had that happen two or three times. It's the worst, too. I have heard about some school of thought that talks about the benefits of having sex and not cumming. Maybe that works for some men, but every time I had sex -- with myself or with a partner, either one -- and I didn't or couldn't drop a load, it was horrible. Sex is for cumming, period.

Sorry you had such a time with yours the other day. Things will fall back into place for you soon, surely.

It always takes me a long time to cum. I usually end up jerking myself off.

Me and my wife have a saying that you have to take responsability for your own orgasm. With that we mean that sometimes it takes the matters of your own hands to cum. Nothing to be ashamed off.

Sometimes I fuck her she cums and I for some reason cant so then I pull out and jack off while she watches or play with my balls or nipples. Sometimes I cum in her and she don't, which mean I can help her while she uses her vibrator or just her fingers.