My girlfriend isn't aware I have ever fooled around with another guy (I have only done mutual jo so far) and I haven't done so while with my current girlfriend, but have been chatting with the guy I played with before again recently and have been thinking about doing it again but I know she would not approve

She might approve if you let her join in the fun!

I know her a bit too well and unfortunately I know she wouldn't approve at all, if she did though that would be some fun!

You're lucky. My wife caught me posting an ad on Craigslist. and flipped out thought I was gay.. I eventually earned her trust back. She knows I like anal play, and I have convinced her that its normal.. but as far as her knowing im bi and like to jack with buds... she would kill me and leave me. I wish she would be open to it.

My wife isn't a fan about my past. I've told her that I sucked my cousin off. She was okay with it. But not something she gets off on. So I keep things to my self.

Thats good you earned her trust back, I don't know if I would be able to explaining my way out of looking for a jacking bud on CL, but luckily my girlfriend never goes near my computer, I use different email accounts for anything like CL posts, and use incognito browsing to be safe

Not me, she would not approve. After we got married she went from free and easy to all out prude. I do wish that I was more clear about being Bi before I got married. We had talked about past experience and I told her that I fooled around with guy's in the past but with her your straight or gay. She doesn't have any desire to try herself so why should anyone else.

I'm in the same boat

one has to play it safe and take extra care when living a double life. Kinda tricky sometimes

i guess I'm one of the lucky ones. Both of us are bi and we enjoy playing with the same sex in the same room. It's great to have that freedom.

I agree
This is one ( of the ) secrets I keep from my wife.

Had some awesome gay experiences when in my early teens, unfortunately it ended then. Never talked to wife about it as she had already said that she wasn't turned on or thought it was unnatural. Have had a couple encounters over the years, unbeknownst to her. Wish I could be open about it, but not gonna happen while married.Congrats to those who are able to enjoy being bi!

Wow. I don't see how some of you guys can keep something as important as your sexual identity a secret from your wives.

I would never dream of hiding that from my partner.

I agree here, the best policy is to have honest frank discussions about likes dislikes, sexuality and other things before getting married. I also understand people change as they get older so frank discussions about it should be held.
At the end of the day I think it goes without saying that some women just will not accept any dalliances initiated by their husbands and if married, of course your first responsibility is to your wife.
The silver lining in all this is that more women accept things like mutual masturbation than in the days of yesteryear.
Personally the stories I read of wives actually encouraging their guys to play are a breath of fresh air because those women understand men to much greater depths than the superficial stereotype.

I see where a lot of you guys are coming from. My ex was pretty open minded, but like a lot of the guys on here, she was of the opinion that either your gay or straight. She found a video on my computer of a guy jacking off I downloaded and freaked out. If she had been a little more open minded about it, I might have been more free about admitting some of my fantasies. But at the risk of her practically losing her mind about it, A lot of us have to keep things to themselves