I'm new to the gay scene. Just came out after being married for 6 years. Very tough. I'm trying to meet men online but I don't think I can handle any more rejection based on my looks. I have never been called ugly or anything of the sort. But, let's face it, I'm a very nerdy looking individual. I wear glasses and my hair is thinning. I was rejected by men no less than 4 times tonight based on the picture I gave them. I never thought my self esteem would suffer so much in one night. After each "not what I was looking for" I thought I was going to scream.

Anyone else deal with this?

I'm not gay myself, but don't let that sort of thing put you down. There are a lot of guys out there, you'll find others just fine.

Don't let it get you down.

Yup, there's alot of it in the gay world. In fact I think it's even worse in the internet generation. People make snap decisions based on a pic, or a list of characteristics. Yet behind all that, may be a fine guy that you could have some connection with. Too often, guys don't even take that chance, based on the initial rejection. Character is hard to self-describe honestly.

It's OK if rejection wins a battle, but you can't let it win the war !

Many gays are super shallow individuals. Just find a nice one!

Sorry to hear that, I get the same rejections for being asian.

Lots of us like nerdy guys and/or Asian guys! ~

Hate to break it to you, but the chances of quickly meeting your dream guy online are just about zero--considerably less than the chances of meeting one or more nightmare guys! In reality, guys are going to reject you for all kinds of reasons, some of them mighty stupid. Frankly, this is what masturbation is for: you can quickly come up with a fantasy about a great guy who finds you fascinating, and be having sex with him in no time. You'll never beat that in reality--and maybe you shouldn't even try.

Simple problem to fix.
Shave your hair all the way off.
If you have a hangup on glasses get some contacts, you can even get eye color changing ones that will possibly improve your looksself esteem.

Most of all you need confidence. Doesn't matter how "hot" you are if you don't have confidence in yourself nobody else will either. Strut around like you own it, go to a gay bar find a guy you like and grab his wrist and put it on your cock.

As they say, don't look for Mr Right, look for Mr Right Now, lol

I wouldn't label "most gays" as being shallow. I've seen plenty of that in the straight world too. It's more of a people thing these days to be shallow, especially, as someone else put it, in the online world. Many people make snap judgments based on the first image they see. And to be honest, that's probably a good thing. You don't want to waste time with those people anyway. Better to find out now rather than later.

As another person said, confidence! Everyone is beautiful. Outside and inside. You need to love who you are and let the world see that you don't care what others think. Yeah you could try and change your appearance, but only if you feel that you would like to. You do not *need* to. Just be patient, be yourself and take your time, and you will find someone great

Hang out at any Interstate rest stop...

Not gay here but just wanted to point out the obvious, your dick didn't reject you. All you have to do is reach down and make your little friend feel good and rejections start to fade away as the cum begins to flow.

Rejected for what? Just a hookup? People online tend to think they're fucking special and want someone hot even if they are not. If you want to actually meet someone try going the non sexual route. Going by this site guys will suck anything so if that's what you want shouldn't be hard to find. I don't know where to meet guys but it won't be easy dude. Good luck.

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