At this point in my life, I am not sure if i'm gay or bi. Since i've started jerking, its been to both str8 and gay porn. I thought I was bi but whenever i've hooked up with a girl i couldn't get hard. Even though i've jerked off to women lots of times. i've only had one hook up with a guy but i didn't have any problems. So at this point I am completely confused. Has anyone else been in this situation before?

Go for the one that gives u a boner. A girl in porn, or a guy in real life. Or whatever. Listen to your dick. Don't worry about labels.

Be "sexual" without a prefix.

Your confusion will sort itself out for you. Whether you're straight, bi or gay, you will figure it out in your own time. Life is too short to worry about labels.

Before you make decisions about who you are and who you're not... PLEASE read this stuff. I think you'll find it enlightening...

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/how-do-i-know-if-my-ed-porn-related-test

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual

I like the articles that were posted but take them with a grain of salt. Most of the science stuff you hear about in articles is taken from a PhD researchers paper and may or may not be entirely accurate... Just like an essay you wrote in school trying to prove a point but your information may not have been complete. I worked in a 'brain mapping' industry and can tell you they're not much closer to figuring out how the gray matter works than they were in the days of BF Skinner. My unprofessional opinion says your probably just bored and it takes something new to get you off. Women that make a living out of porn know what it takes to excite you... That's how they get paid after all. Anyway, I don't want to bore you just want to let you know what you're feeling is probably normal.

Not getting hard with the girl is probably anxiety...go slowly with her...let her stroke you or let her suck you...That feeling should get you hard slowly...the key is go slowly and try not to sweat it if you don't get hard...

The fact you jerk to straight and gay porn says you enjoy both but those are magazines and movies not a live person...relax....

Well ive had similar situations with some females not all
Im not into gay porn but i like to watch guys with huge cocks jack off
If a girl does not interact in sexual pleasure and expects me to do all the work and she just lays there like a slab of meat major turn off
I like them hungry for sex and stimulate me as i do the same to them major turn on
So like others have said just relax your not this or your not that if you jack of at females u just need to find the right one that excites you

A few months ago my heart dropped when my girlfriend told me that she seen all the gay porn I had hidden on my phone and computer. At first she made fun of the situation then told me that she loved me for who I am. She has this gay friend she knew longer then she new me and she wont stop beging for a threesome. I never wanted her to know it but we shared the same fantasies.

Thanks for the replies guys

I jut read your post and felt I had to say something.

Sexuality isn't as simple as it seems and there is a lot of discovery around it. You can jack off to women or guys. You don't have a problem with getting it up with a guy but do with a girl.

I'd like to focus on that for a moment. It isn't necessarily as simple as 'not getting it up so must be gay.' There are underlying issues, it could be anxiety, it could be anything. Nobody here can say what you are and its wrong for someone to say 'go with what makes you hard.' That puts a far too simplistic view on it.

Like I said, nobody here can do much to help you seek answers. We can only try to through questions out there and hope YOU find the answer. I'm not trying to rant or come off as aggressive, but its a complex matter that I need to be straight to the point with.

You have gone as far as getting with a girl despite whether you get it up or not. To me, that suggests that you have an attraction to her. What makes you go home with a girl in the first place? Are you doing it because it feels right? Is there an attraction? Do you just like her company and can't say no? Do you see how this gets a little more complex? In my opinion, you need to think about how you end up struggling to go there. Are you putting too much pressure on yourself?

You say you can happily go along with guys, now again I assume there is a physical attraction and honestly I can't comment much on that because you're happy with it.

Sexuality is more than sex. We live in a world where sexuality defines sex, but just because a girl will have sex with a girl, that doesn't necessarily mean she's bisexual. I'd say she's comfortable with sex enough to explore and enjoy it. Sexuality is actually more lifestyle than sex. To me, sexuality is defined as being attracted to, and being able to connect on a deeper level, I.e. Me being able to love another man as my life partner. If I have sex with a guy, I would enjoy it and do it again but that just means I'm open minded. Without being able to love him and spend my life with him, I can't be bi. Does that make sense? Bisexuality is being able to spend your life with either a male or a female, being able to distinguish them and being happy.

These labels aren't something I feel you should care too much about. I'm merely trying to explain the difference between being open minded and bisexual or gay, in the hope that you can relate it to your life.

My real advice is, why get yourself down about it when you enjoy what you do? Don't change anything, be yourself and enjoy the road of discovery. I realise that you may be worried about life in the future but live for now, not the future. You have a lit to discover and a lot needs to be asked and answered in your own head.

Whether you're bi, gay or open minded, just enjoy it. Things will become clearer as you go along, sometimes it just takes time

I make it a point in my head not to label myself as anything.
Just go with the flow man!