After spending the better part of a year with another guy, we split up because he was really looking for a boyfriend and I wasn't sure I could commit. The subject of this post was one of the things I said that he had a problem with. He's of the opinion that I was in some sort of experimental phase, where I'd eventually figure out I was gay, and we'd be together or something. I found it really unfair when he said the only reason he "let" me hook up with girls while we were together was because he was waiting for me to figure it out. That I'm too much of a twink to ever be straight, a lot of shit that's still kind of bothering me. And part of me thinks I'm seeing this girl that I'm with right now because I'm trying to prove to myself that I really do enjoy sex with women as much as I think I do. I mean, I can't see going the rest of my life without ever experiencing the sensation of sliding into a pussy again. Yet, my balls ache thinking about never being part of another 69 with a dude again. I love straight porn, but 80% of what I get off to is male on male action. After we had that argument, I went out and got sloppy drunk and went home with the first girl who would take me.

In terms of those OTHER aspects of a relationship, it's 50/50. All the things outside of sex I'm interested and like doing with people, I've had both male and female friends interested in the same things.

Not really sure what I'm getting at here, sort of needed a place to anonymously get this shit off my chest in between bragging/tough guy posts about how many times a day I can shoot a load and how horny I get. I know straight/gay/bisexual is a label, and people aren't labels, and I should just go where the cock wants to go til I'm ready to pick someone to settle down with/find someone who wants to settle down with me.

It really is a shame that we use labels to identify ourselves. I am a straight (really curious) married guy. I have only been with another male when I was a kid and, later, through a glory hole (and even then it was only touching his cock). However I love masturbating to guy on guy, tranny, boys sucking, boys stroking each other on cam, etc. I pretty much like watching all kinds of sex, including c2c with another guy. All this being said, I'm still a married guy.

What's wrong with a situation like yours? Why can't you be with this guy, whom you apparently liked, but still have sex with women? After everything that I said earlier, my favorite thing is watching a girl with small breasts and a beautiful body having sex, especially with another girl like herself. I think that places me squarely in the regular guy category who likes to watch women touch each other. However, I would really like to suck a nice hard cock and lick his hairless balls while he strokes his cum into my mouth. (just typing that sentence made me hard!)

I don't get the whole "being faithful" thing and how it extends to sex! Why can't you commit yourself to someone and be faithful to them in that commitment but still have sex with whomever turns you on? We're all just too stuck up to live happily. The world would certainly be a better place and marriages would stay together if we all just engaged in an orgy once in a while.

"The booty don't lie"
- Janelle Monae

In times when I have to think of labels, I am remembered, that we are all on a floating rock, spinning through space... labels are as insignificant as us humans... just be nice to everyone, speak the truth, and accept all feelings... good or bad... they will help you identify who you are, which, is just like other human on this floating, spinning rock through space.

Just keep breathing, that is it. You will do fine...

:-)

Because, as they say, it take two to tango. For some, even many, being faithful in that commitment includes sexually. I may want to have sex with whomever turns me on but if my partner wants an exclusive, then I have to choose between them and my hormones.

And that has nothing to do with labels. It applies whether I'm gay, straight, bi, or some other -sexual that I haven't heard of yet.

DJ

Why do you have to decide EITHER males OR females? If you like both, enjoy both. What's the problem? If you meet some asshat that tells you it has to be one or the other, you are better off staying away from that person. Find yourself some friends with a more liberal and enlightened view of life. Remember, YOLO is very true.

What if YOLO isn't true?

Then in the next life you do the same thing - not a problem.

That's why I love shemales. I get the best of both. With no guilt.

Perfectly said and very true!

To a certain extent, framed as a request of monogamy, I'd be a lot cooler with it. I can respect that, and amicably go separate ways because I am "not ready" (assuming the societal structure of normalcy) to commit or be monogamous. But the other things, adhering to a label or perceptions of how I should be adhering to those labels, that kind of sucked.

For what it's worth, the girlfriend gets me and just asks that condoms are used if I do anything past hands/oral with guys while we're together. She's hinted once that she'd like to watch me suck off another dude, I'm hoping maybe that comes to fruition one of these days.

If I could find a girl like one of these, I'd settle down and play straight.

Oh yessss

guess thats why I love shemales so much,.... tits and cock!!

I would get so turned on if I found out your secret.

This is me to a T except I'm female.

And it's why I'm single. Not many people understand.