What makes me feel guilty after jerking? I love it while doing it and leading up to it, but after i cum, i feel guilty and wanna get dressed; zero sexual feelinss, Im married and even after sex, after i cum, i dont want to be touched.....whats going on?

because you're a selfish prick! lol

I'm kidding. I think a lot of guys are similar. I never feel guilty but sometimes if I should be doing something else I'm like " what the fuck are you doing, go and do whatever". lol but I think maybe you feel its a waste of time after its over and you feel like as an adult you should do something more important. NO! you go jerk that cock and dont feel bad. you need to get that out and its actually healthier than not doing it.

I have the opposite problem. I love jerking off and I do it, eat my cum, and lay around naked and enjoying the afterglow and extreme relaxation only orhasm can give.

OMG me too, er well I used to feel that way too especially back in my 20's or so. And in fact would from time to time tell myself "I'm never doing THAT again!" Which of course is not easy to stop especially since we really enjoy doing it. No matter how long I stopped doing it (days/weeks/months), I always strayed back.

Same here, really enjoy doing it & the amazing pleasure we can give ourselves. And then you get one of those wonderful toe curling orgasms (and tingly warm afterglow) but then those guilty feelings would hit me soon after ejaculating.

But then as I've gotten older - it's really more like who cares. If you enjoy doing it - do it. For some here I've chatted with I do think there are other things to do in life > than spend the entire day masturbating.

If you feel guilty after jacking off sounds like you may have been a Catholic school boy as a youth.

Yes i feel that shameness to after and also dont want to be touched the first thing i have to do is clean my self up how mad is that?

I'd guess that it was mostly a learned behaviour and not something inherently innate. Our parents, school, religious upbringing, personal experiences all have a lot to do with how we behave or respond to situations - both negatively and positively. At the same time the great pleasure we derive from masturbation or any sex act pushes out that learned behaviour, especially the negative at least until orgasm. Then it's back front and centre in our minds. We feel guilty shame, sometimes a need to wash up, and if we're online or camming, we just leave the scene. If we're with a partner in person, we also sometimes want to leave.

It happens to a lot of us, and I think to have a successful relationship or simply to enjoy masturbation, its a behaviour we have to unlearn. And instead lear that sex in all it's variations is beautiful, healthy, enjoyable, as long as you aren't harming your partners or yourself. We need to talk about sex to our close partners, about what we enjoy, learn to cuddle and chat after sex, that rushing to bathroom to clean up goes against the intimacy that sex is supposed to create. We need to not be afraid to admit we masturbate, and share masturbation with our partners, and generally to create intimacy in our lives, instead of exclusion.

I'm sure a google search will turn up lots of reading material on the subject because you aren't alone in how you feel and you can get over it if you try. Good luck, and thanks for sharing what so many are often afraid to share.

The guilt come from the re-uptake of a neurotransmitter called "dopamine." Dopomine is released in the brain when you experience intense pleasure--ike from sex or orgasm. When it's over, the dopamine is re-absorbed by the brain and it stops firing the pleasure centers. The result is a "let down" that could be experienced as depression or guilt. It's really just biological. And we interpret it emotionally. I think the guy who enjoys the afterglow and doesn't feel guilt probably has a brain that does not re-uptake the dopamine as rapidly as does the brain of the guys who feel guilt.

By the way, dopamine is the same neurotransmitter that is released when a drug addict takes a hit. And when the drug wears off, the reabsorption of the dopamine leaves the addict down and craving another fix.

Sex is kind of addictive in the same way.

There must be a way to inhibit the re-uptake of dopamine . . . .that could suppress those guilt feelings. Any ideas?