so i live with roomates and this entire weekend they have both been out, so i was thinking hey i can meet up with a guy and jo this weekend. i only met one person on there before and i was sorta really wanting to meet someone. Anyway, i put up ad and people respond, we exchange pics, they keep chatting say they wanna meet up, tell me where they coming from, give them my info and address (i live in apartment building) so i can give out address and then they are NO SHOW.

This one guy claim he is driving around looking for parking, then he left cuz he claim he did not get parking, while i was waiting outside for him i saw cars taking parking spots.

Anyway craigslist seem to attract the most flaky individuals!

i would say this happened with at least 4 guys

When I post in Casual Encounters M4M I get nothing but flakes.
When I post in Men Seeking Men, I get sincere responses and almost no flakes.
YMMV

I've had some luck with CL but most guys get horny, post up an ad, pic trade, and either jack off and aren't interested or the chicken out.

I don't pic trade beyond a couple of cock shots. I'm not looking for a relationship, I just want to get off. First thing I work out is a place to play. If neither of us can host, or agree to a hotel room, then there is no point moving forward.

so one guy ended up reaching out to me yesterday evening after i was about to give up, and he lives close to me, he is bisexual and wants to engage in light play of which i enjoy the most, i am not into the heavy stuff so we gonna meet up next weekend. One of the flakes from saturday night called me sunday night, saying sorry he couldnt come over cuz his girlfriend came by surprisingly and told me he wanna host or come by, 2 hours past and then he said he is not coming anymore....i wonder if he is scared?

why r guys so worried about their girls finding out, its not like i am gonna shout it on the mountain top that we enjoyed some jo time as men. SOCIETY places boundary and guilt to what is NORMAL.

Because many in a committed relationship consider their partner engaging in sexual contact with someone else to be cheating.

It's not simply a concern with being discovered indulging in masturbation with another guy, but being discovered indulging in sexual activity with someone else, period.

A lot of guys who are curious or have fantasies about being bi answer ads on craigslist, only to find that most of the guys who post are looking for more serious sex that they aren't ready for, or want a lot of kissing and cuddling that non-gay guys might not find stimulating. The problem for both is finding someone on your wavelength - someone who wants to do what you want to do, and doesn't really want to do things you are uncomfortable with. That's a tall order for a one-time furtive meetup.

Someone who is in a relationship that the other person believes is monogamous clearly doesn't want their wife or lover to find out that they are meeting up with guys on craigslist and engaging in sex acts. That's normal behavior regardless of whether the person is gay or str8.

THIS!

My wife would not be happy if she knew what I'd done with other men. She is somewhat bi as well, and I fully support her. Got to watch her finger fuck a woman at a club once then masturbate herself. So very hot! But she has told me she has no interest in seeing me with another man. She knows I played with my best friend in high school and she told me she experimented with her friends in high school, so she understands, but she has no idea I still enjoy cock.

For me, the discussion on forums like here, private messages etc... About wanking over a sexy celeb, fucking a sexy celeb, fucking a sexy celeb with another site user, getting together with another site user to wank over a sexy celeb all amount to the same thing - a hot fantasy that helps make my wank even hotter!

The fantasy stops after the wank because I'm sure like many others the damage of following through beyond that is just not worth those 30 seconds of orgasm. Not sure what others think but that is just my view on matters!

Well my friends it's just not Craigslist that has flakes on it. I have had 4 from here that have flaked out too. Everyone wants to meet but no one follows through.

dont know about flakes on here as i never tried meeting up with someone from here.

I always check out CL to see what there to help out with my JO buddy fantasy. Don't trust the posts.

I've had one bud I met here and I have to admit it was awesome.

Precisely.

My wife is well aware of what I did with my j/o bud in college. And, like yours, she's curious to be with another woman. Although, where yours has indulged that curiosity, mine hasn't. She has my blessing to do so, as long as I at least get to be in the room, but has determined that, while I think I'd be able to handle it, she doesn't think I can...that there would be jealousy and resentment from me. So, she leaves it at fantasy.

Also like yours, she has no interest in seeing two guys together. It does nothing for her. So, while my urge to indulge myself with another guy is sometimes quite strong, I'm not sure I'd ever actually go through with it without her ok, and that's highly unlikely. I've come close to taking that step beyond the boundaries I've set for myself, but haven't done so.

Talk online can get really hot...make one want to dive right in. But, actions have consequences. Would I want her sneaking around on me like that? Not at all. So why would I do something to her that I wouldn't want her to do to me?

I've told my wife that if she has the urge to have sex with someone else and is uncomfortable telling me, she doesn't have to. I don't own my wife and I want her to be happy. I have lived a very wild and fun life. My wife hasn't. She was very sexually backward when we met.

I wonder at times if she has fucked other guys without me knowing. She worked for a dentist years back and confessed to being turned on by him. She said he would wear slacks and she could see the outline of his dick and it made her wet. She also said she masturbated in his office chair on several occasions. I asked her if she'd like him to fuck her and to my surprise she said, "yes, but it's not going to happen". She worked late many times and on a few occasions the two of them were alone in the office.

I know she'd never tell me if she fucked him as she would hate it if I fucked around on her, but it's a fantasy I keep in my head because it could have happened. In 20 years of being with my wife it's the only time she has ever admitted another man turned her on and the only man she freely admits she'd like to have sex with.