I had this really good friend a few years ago that was straight and we had no problems whatsoever. Unfortunately I moved away and we lost touch. It seems like most straight guys don't want to be friends with gay guys because they are afraid/worried about the gay guy coming on to them. Or they want to become friends with a gay guy because they are curious and actually want to explore their sexuality. Cant we just be friends? Just because you have a dick doesn't mean
I want to suck it.

I realize this has nothing to do with masturbation but there are some pretty openminded guys on this site of all sexualities so I thought I'd ask y'all.

I'm straight myself, but 2 of my best friends are a gay couple, and I couldn't be happier for them. I have no problem with them showing affection for one another in front of me, I have no problem with them making teasing comments to one another, and I have no problem with their orientation.

Unfortunately we live in troubled times. Some people are fine, chilled out, and relaxed about such things. Other people still don't understand why certain things are the way they are, and shy away from it because it's human nature to shun the unknown, and very rarely do we, as a society, actually bother to educate ourselves.

The unfortunate circumstance is that sometimes, people play on something they don't understand because they feel threatened or intimidated by it, so they mock and judge just to try and fortify their own facade that shields themselves from their own insecurities. This is mainly to do with the seedier side of things that the media is plastering the news with, and we really don't have any focus on the positive side of anything.

It's really nothing that you've done, but all I can say is that if people that are supposed to be your friends shun you because of your sexual orientation, then they aren't really friends

No problem for me if a guy is gay. Had a few gay friends while I'm married and it hasn't been an issue. They never came onto me or anything -= just like I don't come onto female friends however hot I may think they are!

First off - I'm sorry that there are guys out there who even make you feel the need to ask this question.

Of course a gay guy and a straight guy can be friends and nothing more. Not every guy out there only wants to friend you because he wants to use you to explore and not every guy is going to be so backwards and dated in his thinking that he will assume you want to come onto him.

It is a dated concept but some people just aren't... Enlightened for lack of a better word. They don't understand or are ignorant to what being gay is. Just like being straight, gay guys don't want to fuck everyone they meet. People will understand that eventually but sadly a lot don't now.

Don't feel disheartened. There are real genuine guys out there that won't assume one thing or another. Friends, real friends, want to know someone because of who they are. Not what they are. I'm sure you'll find the comes worth having as friends

I'm gay myself, but I find it easier to come out as begin gay than I do being a Conservative (capitalization mine). Now I happen to be quite masculine and I rarely do anything that would make someone even think I'm into men (and I often surprise those I come out to). I just be a good, kindhearted man who looks for the best in others and give the best I have...as I wouldn't ask for anything more.

If I have things in common with a gay guy then no problem being friends. I had a friend years ago that was gay and you'd never know. He was as very str8 acting. He never tried anything with me. There were jokes back and forth of course but nothing serious. I could have a gay friend no problem. He couldn't be all fem though because I just hate that. Lol. Sorry but that's just too much for me to hang around. I don't have a problem with that guy being gay I just dont need him announcing it all the time. Lol

I hava gay friend's. I agree flamboyant and such. Is too much. But yeah I enjoy my gay guy interaction's. No diff than being with a straight dude. But they tend to dislike pussy in their porn .....

Tsk tis a shame..Lol.

youre right there - no pussy in my porn please! hehe but if theres a transman (female to male), thats cool, hot actually!

I've had several gay friends and still do. Honestly I never think about it until they bring it up or we joke about it.

A guy I used to work with was gay and we had lunch together quite a bit and cut up with each other. I responded to a personal ad he put on a gay site once not knowing it was him. We were setting up a meeting and when I told him where I worked he responded back with my name. Freaked me out because I didn't know who he was. We had exchanged cock pics and cumshot pics. We both got a good laugh and decided it would be better if we didn't hook up. But lunch conversations got a lot more interesting after that.

Of course they can be friends. Can a married man be friends with a single woman?

I have str8 guy friends, always have had, not an issue.

I have tried to become friends with a few really neat gay guys that I would like to be buddies with, but inevitably eventually they make a pass, or a blatant joke ("blah blah blah I'd like to suck your cock blah blah ') and I've just been disheartened by that. I play off the 'no' as lightly and cool as I can, still the vibe shifts to what I think is they feel rejected, lose interest in the friendship, and it's just a shame. That said, I really believe (hopeless optimist?) that its just been my luck, and that is not the norm and that str8 guys can be friend with gay guys...

I have a couple gay friends and I don't use them for handjobs or blowjobs, we're just friends.

I'm glad ClrWtrDLbud71 said what he said. It's important to understand that everyone's different and that its hard to blanket all str8 people and all gay people in the same actions, thoughts, etc.
I am gay, out but not too flamboyant as someone else has mentioned here. I currently live with a str8 coworker. Thankfully he is open minded to the point that he doesn't mind when my dates are over (or even my hookups). But I've never propositioned him directly, the offer though - has been "standing". And why would I breach our relationship (much like ClrWtrDLbud71 mentioned, it could be uncomfortable and off putting) - I did it because I'm a horny guy that likes sucking dick.

I don't mean to be flippant, but another person here made a comment, we'll, I don't hit on every woman I see. But would you mind having a go at them? My standards are quite simple - have a penis.

So, when we moved in the offer was made once and never repeated. However, him being so open, we've looked at porn together and bought bluRay porn together, even some sex toys. But we've never jacked together. etc. Hell, I even asked him if I could watch him and his girl have sex.... So for me, its not even gay - its I'm horny and love sex. I'm a gay that's not scared of a pussy (although I won't touch one...haha, just watch thanks).

Now for you friend, Eagle7891, sometimes people loose touch. It happens. Moving away doesn't make that easier. I've moved 1600 miles from home and maybe speak to 3 friends on a regular basis. Sorry for your loss.