I've been watching porn and jacking to it for over 9 years, and over those years I began forming different sexual responses that weren't natural for me, one being aroused hard cocks (In porn). I could be watching a M/F scene and I'll have an urge to watch a male solo video, but yet I don't know why. It's like some kind of pull, I watch women because I like them, but hard cocks make me hard because...I don't know, and it makes me worry about future with women. Is it because Im a chronic jerker that seeing other hard cocks connects right to m? giving me a charge of arousal not actually wanting it? but just a sympathetic connection?

I mean I was pretty much in love with my own cock growing up basically, jerking off to my crushes, jerking off to females in movies, humping the bed to cheerleader pictures, learning penis exercises, and so on. I think that's the reason it makes me hard, makes me want to jerk, because to my mind, cock isn't offensive cause I've been accustomed to pleasuring myself for years. But it doesn't answer if It will truly change things.

Does applying a label that really doesn't adequately convey the nuances and subtleties of human sexuality really matter all that much, beyond being a convenience on sites like this?

Kinsey's studies showed that a very small percentage of people are 100% heterosexual or homosexual...that most have some degree of attraction to both genders. Some will act upon that secondary attraction...a lot won't. If you must apply one of those labels to yourself, use whichever one you feel most accurately describes you.

It's natural for straight males to become aroused seeing erect cocks. It's a primitive, competitive thing: they're hard so you need to get hard, so you can fuck whatever woman shows up.

Well I had the exact same feelings growing up, we had no internet then, so I did'nt actually do anything till I was 37, but after sucking my first cock I finally realised that yes I am orally bi...I love cocks but I dont fancy men. I wont lie, I was married for 13 years and went with a guy in my last year with my wife and even though I've had girlfriends since the urge to suck a cock is always there and honestly I have turned down the chance of two relationships with women because of that.

I went through the same thing. I'm fine with it now. I'm still primarily attracted to women. I'll jerk off to big cock porn sometimes, but I almost always gravitate back towards porn with women in it, even during that jerk off session.

I've never been aroused by a guy in person still though. My wife and I have gone to a lot of swingers clubs and the like, so I've seen my fair share of naked, erect dudes... it just doesn't do it for me if its not on a screen.

Just embrace it and enjoy it. If you're mainly attracted to women, you'll almost certainly stay attracted to women.

If its the dick you're aroused by or attracted to...you're normal.

But...if its the guy attached to the dick...?
I've been jacking with guys since I was a kid and sucking since I was 30.
Never once kissed any of them but have kissed every female I've been to bed with.

Does it really matter? Looking at and getting aroused by seeing another hard cock is natural. You know what it feels like.

I second this theory

I think, too, that when you see a nice hard twitching cock, YOU know how good that feels and so you get hard and horny vicariously. Doesn't have to be any of this competitiveness shit!

You are normal, don't worry. There are many of us who find a hard cock sexy but aren't attracted to the man attached to it. I've been this way my whole life. I've stroked and sucked plenty of cocks, never wanted to do anything romantic like kiss or cuddle with the guy. Just want his cock. Its normal.

Just because you stand in a garage doesn't make you a car. Just because you sit in church doesn't make you a christian. Etc.

It's what's in your heart that matters. I love women romantically. I love giving gifts, dating, cuddling, kissing, and also having sex with women.

I also like sex with men. Not because I'm attracted to them, but because it's fun and feels good. Once I shoot my load I'm not interested in snuggling and cuddling, I'm interested in leaving.

I consider myself bi because I enjoy sex. Period. Male, female, or a vacuum cleaner....I don't care. If it feels good, it's good!

Individual human sexuality is a complex business and something that can often change over time. Personally I hate all the labels that get applied to people - gay, str8, bi. As long everybody involved are consenting adults then I say screw labels and go have fun. Just be safe whilst doing so.

I think this probably sums it up best for me as well. I am happily married and love my wife completely. Until the last 5 years or so I never had any experience with men though I've always been curious about cock.

I started with camming and, after that got rid of my shyness, I eventually jerked with the occasional guy at the gym. One of those guys I got to know a bit better and built up enough trust to go to his house. One of those visits he suddenly leaned over and started sucking me and I felt obliged to return the favor.

We eventually tried everything and all felt great but one thing did absolutely nothing for me -- kissing. That was the last of the things I tried (at his request) and I didn't care for it at all. I loved oral and was OK with anal but hated kissing.

It was because, at least for me, kissing is more of an emotional connection and I didn't feel that. He's a nice guy and a friend but that's it. If he had suddenly not wanted to meet up or talk with me again I'd be fine with that. I wouldn't feel any emotional loss. Actually, I started to feel HE was getting an emotional connection and it made me feel awkward like he was looking for more than I was. I've changed gyms and our schedule hasn't worked out to meet up in about 6 months or so and the only thing I've felt is relief. We email each other a bit but I don't know if we'll get together again or not.

It's a rather strange thing to try to classify -- You like the act associated with being "gay/bi" but feel zero attraction. Not sure a good label exists nor is one really needed. You are what you are.

Well said. I think that applies to a lot of us.

Short answer...no. I fall in love with women. I get turned on by almost anyone who is horny, naked and masturbating.

Cocks are sexy...hard cocks are really sexy...a dude stroking his hardon is likely to make me want to play with mine.

But then again i am a dirty pervert