Well, im fighting a PMO addiction ive had for some years now. It's basically made me depressed, sad, doubtful and uncaring. I havent been watching anything for some time now, if I do, it's mainly just videos with girls in it, get some arousal in and thats it. But at school, I feel like it all still affects me badly. I want to talk with girls, but I still want to look at big boobs and nice legs every now and then without being addicted to it. Can anyone give me advice on how I can still watch porn moderately and manage a better, happier lifestyle?
I don't want porn to affect how I am with girls anymore, which basically sorta shy to say anything. But like I said, I still want the benefit of watching it every so often with no problem. Somethings telling me you can't have two things in your hand and have your hands on the wheel too, something has to go....damn, I really am a porn addict, cause I really dont want to throw away nude woman or sex on my screen at my disposal...fuck!!!

That's really hard to say; everyone is different and what works for one won't work for another. The general thought is that no there is no middle ground. I don't know if I was ever a full on addict, but I did have some behavior that would suggest I needed to make a change and I did. I have found some things that work for me and my situation. It has worked for couple years which is long enough I feel comfortable with it. So while I don't think giving up porn completely is a bad idea I just happened to find what works for me and allows me moderate PMO. Basically I did two things; I changed my approach to why I masturbate and I set some basic ground rules that I have generally been able to adhere to. I say it works for me because the issues I had in my own situation with excessive PMO have been alleviated so I consider that a success. Obviously YMMV

My advice is to find a girl that shares your love of porn. Believe it or not, they are out there.

Next advice I can give you is when you do find that girl, lose the jealousy "I own you" mentality and be her "partner in crime". If she is a porn/sex addict then she will want to fuck other guys and have validation that she is attractive and can attract men. Just enjoy it. Let go of all your boundaries and enjoy.

I had a GF in college who was a sex addict and while I enjoyed it, I didn't realize how good I had it. Now I'm married to a woman who leaves a cum towel on my nightstand because she has no plans of ever fucking me. She expects I'll jerk off and be happy.

I haven't had sex in nearly a decade. I love porn and masturbate frequently and while it has its perks, its also incredibly depressing. I'm not sure what I'm going to do about it, but masturbation and sex are much better than masturbation without sex.

Now its been so long that I'm not even sure I could have sex. It probably wouldn't work at all.

Not to be a downer but like any addiction, you do this to yourself. Its really up to you to fix it. I don't believe you can be addicted to porn. I love it and look at it a lot but I can walk away. People have a habit of staying with things that are comfortable. Girls say no but porn never does. Porn is a slut lol. You have to be stronger than the porn. Addiction is a state of mind. Just be stronger than the urge. When you find yourself about to sit for six fucking hours and look at porn get up and go for a walk. Teach yourself you can take it or leave it. Rule the porn don't let it rule you.

Stop being so hard on yourself (pardon the pun).
I'm a functioning porn addict. It helps me to de-stress without having to resort to drugs or booze.
Just enjoy it and when the right girl comes along then enjoy her too.
Sex/porn is wonderful to enjoy. Don't give in to that old Catholic guilt etc..
We only get one chance in life so enjoy it as much as you can and sex - be in wanking or intercourse is one of life's few pleasures.

It's certainly your decision but I can't personally condone this advice. I'll also add that sex is only part of a relationship with a woman.


This is over simplified and not the whole picture, but yeah that kinda what it comes down to. Changing your perspective on porn and some will power. I'm not going to get in an argument over semantics regarding addiction, but the truth is some people have as hard a time giving up or limiting porn as any alcoholic would have with booze (or any other applicable vice)


This really isn't about religion or guilt. There are actual physiological, physical, psychological consequences that can occur from masturbating to porn. You should check out www.yourbrainonporn.com it's really quite fascinating.

I agree porn is fucking great if your addicted so wot enjoy it and wank more

Perhaps you will find that others have articulated the thoughts that I express here better but I will give this a shot. At the risk of sounding like a cliche you really need to unpack this bag a bit in order to understand it better.

Porn: Think of it as a tool that serves the purpose of helping you get off. I have not heard of people being addicted to hammers or sets of pliers, other tools that one employs to get certain jobs done. When approached that way you take control of porn and put it in its place, just another tool that you have at the ready to help you get off.

Balance: Yes I could literally spend hours stroking my cock to hot porn but I need to go to work, I need to workout, go to the grocery store dry cleaners, etc. Part of putting porn in its place is structuring your life so that porn and your wee wee are not at the center of your life. I would literally set up a schedule with school or work at the center of it. Next activities that enhance your life, health next. By the time you are done scheduling classes , work, a workout schedule and classes at the gym, meetings of your book club, beer, whiskey or wine tasting group, time for hanging out with family and friends you will have time to jack off perhaps very early in the morning to start the day or late in the evening to close out the day perhaps with a long bonus day jacking thrown in here and there when the ball game or your kayaking or sailing plans get rained out. The beauty of this approach is that you will not only feel better because you are being active, fit and engaged in life but you will be meeting people , i.e. women, during a lot of these activities and because you are actively engaging in life you will have lots to talk about.

Women: OMG books could be written about what I don't get about women but I was once married and since have had a pile of GFs so some understanding has penetrated my pea brain. Woman like to feel comfortable around a guy. It is hard to feel comfortable around someone who isn't comfortable around themselves. As such I agree with others that you really need to cut loose the guilt about viewing porn for the reasons stated above and because I bet that guilt is being conveyed to the women you encounter and is inhibiting your ability to get things started with them. Again if you lose he guilt and dive into a more active lifestyle this should go better with women. Note here that just because you let go of feeling guilty about using the tool of porn that does not mean that you go around sharing that with every woman you meet. Not every one will be your soul mate and most will not work out so the practice of some discretion never hurts here. The other bit here is that women like to feel like they have aroused a guy, gotten him worked up and then where able to satisfy him sexually. It is an accomplishment for them and many women view the presence of porn very akin to the presence of another woman. Hence the "I don't know why you watch that stuff" or "I should be enough..." I was lucky enough once to find a woman who was my partner in crime when it came to porn and being kinky but that sadly is rare so just be cool on over sharing and let your use of the tool of porn be disclosed naturally, e.g after you have been fucking her brains out non stop for hours a day for days on end (you have that kind of gas in the tank you are still in your 20s)she might look up at you and say what are you going to do when I am not here... that is when you casually share Oh I guess that I'll check out some porn get myself off until I can get my hands on you again...( insert return to marathon fucking at this point) Just my .02, good luck

I think that if you are so much into porn, at some point, edging for hours with porn and having a girlfriend become incompatible.

At some point I realized girls were simply not for me, because I have much better sex by myself. Compared with masturbation, sex with a girlfriend feels not that great and takes a lot of work to keep your woman happy.

At some point you need to make a decision, but try to get to that poit without guilt or getting desperate.

Enjoy your porn and also date some girls to arrive at a conclusion friend. And do both happily as some others recommend.

If you watch some porn and masturbate, focus on that and enjoy it to the max.
If you date a girl, enjoy time with her without getting too worried about the outcome.

Porn isn't the problem, porn is just a symptom. Your porn addiction is driven by more significant underlying issues. If you were to quit porn you'd just move onto another addiction. Porn give you a way to emotionally numb yourself and escape the internal hurt you feel. Find a good therapist and discuss it with them.

Some interesting relevant comments.Does the "addiction" interfere with your life, relationships , work etc. If it does you have a choice . Whats at stake? Once you have figured that out,1) leave as is , 2) remove the temptation permanently or 3) temporary. It's no good trying to loose weight when a quart of your most favourite ice cream is in the fridge. Also let go of the guilt. Its just made up . Dopamine is released in huge quantities to the brain for edgers and I am told I am looking so good after a long nights session. The beauty treatment remains private

Or maybe it's just fun to look at porn and jerk off. I've been doing it since I was a kid and it's not for any reason other than I love being horny and having an orgasm.

Orgasm releases endorphins in the brain and is also a healthy practice for prostate health. I agree that if jerking off causes you issues with your life it is a problem, but I find the opposite to be true. I jerk off and feel great afterward and it allows me to focus on other thing rather than thinking about sex all day.

I have an hour set aside in my schedule every day for masturbation. I has been and will continue to be a part of my daily life.