lol So I was just sitting here minding my own business, when this rogue 'wanker' popped on in, announcing his condition like a preschooler proud of tying his shoes for the first time.

http://postimg.org/image/gxo5blpl5/

'Hard' made the announcement, showing that we no longer need to bother with any kind of communication or greeting. Apparently being erect is all that's needed now to make another guy come running to frot with you like two cavemen trying to start a fire.

He couldn't understand my lack of interest, following with 'I am'...'we talked before'...as if this would reiterate his state of arousal and get me to play ball.

I said so, in so many words, and he stayed quiet for a looong time. But then, desperate, he told me the source of his malady, 'shemale piss and cum videos lol' thinking this would jolt me into mutual desire, but really just had me feeling ill.

Sensing my displeasure and managing to catch the word 'cliche' perhaps, he feigned disinterest at this point and said he was going to bed.

But, provoked by me, naturally anger followed, since it's hard to accept how someone may not be passionate for your sweaty and smelly self, naked and masturbating furiously to other males (that are ironically sexier than you) in the middle of the night at a keyboard that shouldn't be handled without rubber gloves. So, displaying his online gaming style of arguing, he threw my own insults back at me, until, feeling I had a good enough screenshot to make this post, I blocked him.

Indeed, all I really could keep saying was the word 'pathetic' because it's the only word that truly applied. It puts me in mind that this is just about 99% of the mentality I find here on JC when it comes to chatting, and it's more depressing than it is humorous.

Regardless of why we are here, or our sexual preferences, and no matter how horny we are, chatting with another stroker doesn't have to degrade into this sub-human exchange where you lack all courtesy and communication skills that's PATHETIC even for the internet. Even for JC.

This is worse than guys that are in a hurry, bored, want to be entertained, answer with one word, can't express themselves, want pics etc etc as they ignore everything in the name of orgasm. This is just SAD.

So which kind of chatter are you?

Thanks for sharing. I've seen a lot of lameness in chat but that exchange was abysmal. Beginning a chat with "Hard" goes beyond rudeness and into the bizarre. Now I don't expect guys to be Melville but when they act that inhuman I wonder why they bother to involve chatting in their masturbation at all.

Yes, quite interesting exchange. Seems to me "hard' or "stroking" have taken the place of ASL. Either way pretty annoying to me. As frostee said no Melville, Thoreau or even Chaucer required just a bit of conversation, courtesy even.

excuse me but this site is for wankers.oh sorry I see!

i'm hard

I don't think they guy's approach was any more courteous or conversational than "asl". No greeting, just a clumsy one-word question, without even a question mark.

Your immediate response to that one word was to belittle, insult and condescend. In some ways, that was even worse. I doubt he realized his ham handed approach was rude and would put most people off. But you shot back with a mocking stream of insults, very intentionally rude and meant to offend or hurt.

I'm probably being too harsh, and I don't mean to be a dick, but really, that reaction to "Hard", as a greeting, seems over the top. I don't bother replying to those chatters, and that's usually the first and last word I hear from them. Less wear and tear on everyone that way.

I support what str855m said.


To me it is just a case of two guys wanting different things.
You Villun wanted some polite chat and that guy wanted some quick fun.

If i had been in that room with him i would have joined in the dirty talk.
I like that sometimes, I'm not looking for deep meaningful conversations here.

Sexual arousal even to the degree of 'extremely horny' is NOT sad, pathetic or inhuman.
I don't think I have to feel ashamed for wanting to live that out in a chatroom dedicated to masturbation.

Only thing that irritates me is photo sharing. Otherwise if I'm not into chatting I don't.

I also agree with what str855m said. This is a masturbation site after all, and the pictures at the bottom of your screenshot aren't exactly Disney characters. If you didn't like his greeting, just ignore the message, or say "not interested". There was no point in continuing the conversation just to insult the guy.

No, no, no, if a chatter is being a fucking idiot and wasting your time then call him out. He deserves all the hate he gets.

[quote=frostee_cold]No, no, no, if a chatter is being a fucking idiot and wasting your time then call him out. He deserves all the hate he gets.[/quote
sorry i have to disagree....there is nothing difficult about being polite...granted...but we all have our differences of what we want from a wank sometimes....this guy had the option of being polite himself...and he chose not to.thats the same in my book

I have a feeling that the original poster's comments were less directed at the individual they sent to, and more a boiling over of building frustrations with the general lack of courtesy in the chat.

A simply "hello" is an easy thing to do and can go a long way. If someone messages me in the chat room and says "Hello" and dispenses with a few minutes of pleasantries, I am for more likely to continue in conversation than if the first message they send is something along the lines of "asl," "hard," "naked," "horny?" etc. When that is the first thing someone says to me I usually either ignore them or simply say "ok?" because I'm not sure what they are looking for with that message or how I should respond.

On a related note, I will not continue a conversation with someone in the chat who abbreviates everything and fails to follow even basic rules or grammar. I don't need everything written out perfectly (I understand we're in a masturbation chat room), but if I have to take time to decipher what you are trying to say after every message you send, or try to figure out if you're making a statement or asking a question, I'm not interested in chatting.

Well thanks for the support, but I also see some of you don't agree with my actions. Frankly, what I see in that is the same old sanctimonious 'victim blaming' that takes place all over the internet to excuse any original rudeness done to someone, by turning their subsequent actions back on them like some kind of misstep.

Now granted, I'm not really a victim of anything but a brush with stupidity lol, but to chastise me for provoking this idiot and saying my actions were just as bad etc etc, is too 'enabling' for me.

Negativity and criticism are real things in our society no matter how we want to white wash them in this online PC world, and I see no reason why I am to blame for how I acted with this idiot over how he originally acted towards me.

In fact, masturbation and jerking off are no longer the point. The point is it's not up to me to excuse his lack of tact and common decency, nor should I be to the one to worry about understanding his 'aroused' situation, when he made no attempt to earn any kind of courtesy from me or worry about mine. But it's easy for you to judge my actions, because it's easy to pat ourselves on the back online and say 'I would have done better.' But think about that the next time you give someone the finger in traffic lol.

When people are offended for other people being offended, you get nothing but circle logic that has no end, and that creates an emotionless stew where people never have to be accountable for their bad behavior, because the person on the receiving end should 'understand' them.

On a time, we used to worry about how we acted for the disapproval it garnered in others, and so we policed our actions and the like. Now we call it 'expressiveness' and do as we please, while still expecting respect. That, good people, is a fucking joke.

At the end, I'll say this much. That you are exactly right. I belittled and humiliated him and that was my point. I was condescending from the start, because for me his actions are inhuman and pathetic and I enjoyed telling him so. But at least I can own my actions and opinions and admit to my behavior, rather than have someone make an excuse for me online.

Now, call me a hater, hopeless, psycho analyze me...whatever. That's all just part of the 'forum' back and forth, but at day's end, I know how to treat people with some measure of respect no matter when and where it happens AND when they deserve it as well. So I will never 'enable' a moron, and especially not one with a hard-on lol.

Gotta love all this heated talk on some wank site. lol It's funny how offended some people get on fucking porn sites. lol