Then what did you mean but this? Only interested in fulfilling their own needs and care nothing about the other person. I would say 75% is way too low

I'm saying that that's why most people have bad experiences trying to meet other guys to stroke with, because most guys they meet up with are jackasses.

I have never had a terrible experience. I am slow and picky. If the other guy is selfish or in a hurry, he is a jackass as mentioned above. Take time, build some friendship (doesn't take too long), and then proceed respectfully. I have had some so so experiences, but also some great ones.

I've met 5 different people doing meets and the nerves are always there. As long as you both have plenty in common it should be fine

I think it is a risky move to meet anyone off a masturbation site. It is intended for an online community of masturbators. It should remain online. Most guys just want the chat and material and ejaculation. Most cum and go.

Over the years, I've had two guys over, and went to one guys condo, from online. The condo guy was much older and didn't get hard. After coffee he asked if I wanted to go into the den. There was a love seat. He asked what kind of porn I wanted to watch. I said young guys. Though he never got hard, he gave me maybe the best blow job of my life.
The guys that came over, one came over once and just wanted to suck me off. And the other came over three times before the pandemic. He and I watched porn and jacked and sucked each other each time.
It's quite a turn on to have a jack bud, especially when they let you cum in their mouth.

Great seeing this subject matter being discussed. I think it's pretty reasonable, among sane people to be nervous about the possibility of meeting for masturbation!

Absolutely be extremely cautious of anyone you meet on the internet. There are tons of crazy trolls that you should never trust. Some can not even have civilized adult conversations. Why would you ever want to meet?