Bravo. Well said.

I've only been a member for a couple of months but I want to thank you and the other people responsible for running the site for providing a place where we can discuss this very important part of our lives.
Please don't take any notice of the wankers (sorry no pun intended) who can only criticise but still remain active members and continue to make use of the very facility that they complain about so bitterly.
If you don't like what's being served up, leave the table guys.
As someone famous once said: You can please all of the people some of the time, and some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time."
Thanks again for providing this forum and the ability for us to express our sexuality in all its forms openly and without fear or favour. : & ) to the knockers (the wankers that is, not the tits).

I agree. But since mods never appreciate criticism from anybody, I gotta say that the post seemed kinda phony to me. He maybe needs to just get on with the mod job and quit trying to act friendly. (I didn know that the banned word list only applied to the chat room btw.)

hello Adiemus! WB.

Hi jackinchatters,

Just wanted to pop in and share a few words.

I know I'm not active these days within the community, but I do my best to put folks in charge who care about the site, and the community to make sure that anyone who visits can have a good experience.

Rod's been flying solo for quite a while and he's only one man. As such, JC's been a bit "wild west" lately - especially in the chatroom. If Adiemus has felt it necessary to include banned words in the chatroom, I assume it was in response to a specific problem that has either gone long unchecked, or was starting to be a problem.

Criticism is welcome, but will be best received if presented constructively. I've always felt the rules at JC should largely be common sense and rely on people having basic respect for one another.

I understand that there are tons of things that people get off on, and I want this to be a place to share. However, once we start getting into particular extreme niches, that content can start negatively impacting the enjoyment of others on the site.

For instance, anything related to kids has always been a hard ban on the site. We're not interested in being a place where people with sexual fantasies involving under age children congregate. I think most people who visit JC would consider this a common sense rule.

Sexual violence is another topic that hasn't traditionally been banned if only because it's never really come up before. There's a lot of nuance within that realm, however. Safe, sane, consensual BDSM is a world away from abusive sexual violence against women, for example.

I've never personally been a fan of "black lists" for words because context often matters. However, again, if that step's been taken, I'm going to trust it's being done in response to a specific problem tied to a small but persistent minority of users.

TL;DR - discussion and criticism welcome

A post from "Administrator" is rather rare, and this one deserved special attention I think. It emphasized the point that what is acceptable and unacceptable often involves nuance and the necessity of judgement calls. While he expressed some reservations about "black lists for words" that inevitably lack consideration of context, he solidly supported the moderators who have a difficult job, while also explicitly soliciting constructive "discussion and criticism" from the members. Very conciliatory and also admirably lacking in the "my way or the highway" tone that I've noted lately from some members directed at others. I appreciated "Administrator's" input at this time.

What really happens is several chatters from the larger network come into the room and for instance post photos in the main room. Seen it happen several times. They don't see it's affiliated with a website. It helped to add the link referring back to this page showing people what the rules are about what's allowed.

I thought this post from the administrator/owner was right on target and came at a very good time. It dealt sensibly with a number of current issues and made it clear that responsible discussion and criticism is always welcome. Some members here have been inclined to tell other members who post a critical comment to leave the website and go find one they like better. Clearly that's not what the guy who owns and runs Jackinchat has in mind about the way we operate.