I had gotten married in mid-1990 and my gut told me it was a mistake. I hung in there 'til late last year but we were a volatile mix. I guess it was one of those do it for the kids and, hey we have tons of bills and a mortgage things. Still, we managed to have a healthy sex life until about 3 years before the divorce. She just clammed up. But, like I said the marriage hit the skids long before that and in late 2007 I was approached by a relatively well-known acoustic singer-songwriter from the area music community (I play bass guitar). She complimented my playing, my eyes, etc. In other words she paid attention to me. Within one week she gave me the best blowjob of my life in her car after we were just supposed to meet for coffee. The next week I faked calling in sick to work and spent the night at her place and had mindblowing, passionate sex. Given my age group I had never been with a girl who shaved herself down there and I found the experience amazing. (There was a 6 year difference between us.) She even offered to make it an ongoing side relationship with no strings attached but I started feeling weird about it and thought I'd give my marriage another go monogamously. Man, what a mistake. Anyway, I was fucking floored when she released her debut CD early the next year and one of the songs was written about the end of our thing. Now she's remarried, happy and with another child (She has 2 older young adult children from a previous marriage.) Meanwhile I'm pretty newly divorced and trying to find me way. I sometimes get really pissed that my ex-wife jumped right into the match.com online dating game right after the ink was barely dry. I guess the only satisfaction I get out of that fact is that the guy is bald as a cue ball and looks 10 years older than us. But like my former family doctor said to me - and he meant it - do NOT go fishing for relationships - or even flings - online, because they always end up disasters. He said to go out to a pub and grab a drink, or hang out at a coffeehouse, or take a walk in a park. Even a library. But online is a no=no. I think I have to agree with him. I was on Okcupid for about a week when a bookwormishly-hot 20-something....she had the whole straight long hair w/ bangs and nerd glasses thing going on....messaged me. We started messaging me and within literally a day I learned that she was a former heroin addict...shooting up since she was 12....a former porn star in Vegas. The companies would fly her out there. She did have an amazing BBW kind of body with great tits. She told me that once she gave up the dope about 4 years ago she gained a lot of weight. Man she was smoking hot but junkie plus porn star - even if it's a former of both - you can't give me a condom strong enough. Plus she wanted to have a kid. I'm done with that. So, other than the affair I described above the most I ever did was make out with girls here and there at rock clubs and bars - and, when I was separated, I drove a girl without a car home and she unzipped my pants and started sucking my cock while I was driving. I almost hit a tree. Isn't that how Teddy Pendergrass became wheelchair-bound?

Actually some very valid points here, I'm someone who has invested 10 years into a single woman on the side and its amazing and fucked up in equal measures...

I'm a bass player too. I thought the guitar player got all the girls. LOL!

Hehehehehehe..... Thus proving that women arent always as stupid as men tend to think they are! LOL

What would you do if you found your wife cheating on you?

I learned very early on...it doesn't matter how good a guitar player you are...if you want pussy, you better be able to sing

And to the topic at hand...my wife and I agree that looking is fine, just no touching. I certainly look, but I have not touched anyone else. Certainly touched my own cock while looking of course haha

I have to say...some good advice actually came out of this thread...I appreciate the input.

Dont have time to post right now...but will post an update...