My girlfriend and I have pretty regular sex but we want some super fun and kinky stuff so we got her some outfits and what not. Got her to get super kinky about what she wants from sex and she is super cool with all sorts of dress up and wigs and taking pics of creampies and facials and all sorts of other stuff. My only problem is that I don't like asking for this stuff when I really want it. I hate hearing myself talk so I think it is a little more on the self conscious side but still could use some help. If I want her all dressed up I just don't like asking for it even though I really want it. Anyone have any tips?

I know how you probably feel awkward about asking
and how great it would be if your GF would already knew what
you wanted ... but that rarely happens. HOWEVER, you
are so lucky that you have a GF who not only is
willing to hear what turns you on, but is willing to
do it.

My suggestion to you is to go back and forth,
each of you create a scene you would like to
play out and then do it, have fun with it.
Eventually, you won't need to do this and
will just react spontaneously with each other
-- creating new turn-ons in the process.

Ranger99 makes a good point about starting off taking turns. So after your turn, it's understood that your gf should come up with a good idea and initiate it.

Something that worked for me in the past is that I placed a sexy bra or pair of panties on the bed in the morning, and my wife knew I'd like her to be wearing it when I got home. I still initiated it, but no words were spoken and she never disappointed. That was 4 kids ago, but good memories.

Good luck to you, plasma360.

I might add, that after each scene you do,
talk about it after. What worked, what didn't work,
what surprised you.

Any tips for scenes and maybe how to "get into it"? We are both new to roleplay in and just want to go sorta slow with it. I told her I like the idea of giving the hot nurse a sperm sample or banging the hot housewife when her husband isn't home. Something along those lines. But like I said, tough to ask for/set it up type of thing.

I never used to have to ask my wife and she knew what I loved and dressed quite often of her own accord. Then I started to have to ask and hated it, so I know where you're coming from. Then I'd ask and it would never happen. So now I don't even bother asking anymore.

Instead of asking directly, write things done
on a piece of paper and give it to each other.
It can be as specific as you like. As you go
back and forth, things will naturally just open
up -- have fun. This is adult play.

Asking is part of the fun. Then she knows what you want.

It is important to at least try and communicate your needs. Here is a classic example. I was married for 24 years and 11 months. It was only a few weeks before we finally split up that I found out my wife had always wanted to try anal sex. But she had never said so before and I had never asked....so...it never happened.

We're not into roleplay, but when we were getting into light bondage and it was all a bit new, I just laid out what I wanted her to wear on the bed with a note / instructions. That really helped us to get things going in the beginning!

We never talked about sex ever, so it never happened. Being able to talk about it great.