TL;DR: First time host, any tips or advice to make sure we have a good stroke session?

After posting a few ads on a bunch of different forums and sites I eventually started chatting with a guy who is only a few miles from me. We both seem to be into the same type of porn and are looking for the same thing, a jo bud with the potential to experiment (mutual/frot) down the road if we're both feeling it.

We're both in relationships with women. He's about 10 years older than me, married, a father, that whole thing, so he isn't able to host.
So, the plan is for me to host sometime later tonight. What's the best set up?

I'm thinking of setting us up in my partially finished basement where I could hook my laptop up to the 50inch TV there. There is a big couch so there is plenty of room.

I've got a few different types of lube ready to go and some videos bookmarked.

What do you guys think? Also any general tips or advice for a first time host?

Protect your privacy, don't get drunk or high, and have fun! I like to meet somewhere public first to make sure we're both into each other.

"Protect your privacy"

This is something I'm concerned about, he seems genuine when he says he wants to be discrete and keep this on the dl but you never know. What measures do you usually take?

Like the other response said, meet somewhere public first. Don't just talk about jerking off, find out a bit about the guy. If you do eventually get together at your place, and it is the first time for him (and/or you) don't rush things. Talk about past experiences, likes, dislikes. Set clear boundaries...e.g. no oral or ok with helping each other, nothing is more scary than not knowing how things stand. Finally, try to keep it light, joke about stuff, have fun and try to RELAX. (not easy the first time I know). I have known my JO buddy for 18 months now and I can testify that, once you find the right guy, it can be awesome. We communicate by e mail, never by phone just to be safe and we have a cover story to explain his presence should that ever be required.

Safety is the thing and discretion if he is going to know your name and come to your house. You can't be too careful. You are setting up a recipe for fun or a disaster. Make sure it stays fun. These days blackmail is rampant as well. Once he knows you, your address, and has been in your house, the sky is the limit. Having said that, I have had nothing but wonderful experiences.

All of the advice you're getting is spot-on. Meet in public first, then go wherever you're going to go. Keep your wits about you. Keep it fun, keep it light. Learn about the other guy -- I don't want to say "useful info," but get some useful info, so you get a better idea of whether he's a psycho or just a horny guy. And agree before you get naked what you're OK with doing.

To that, I'll add one other thing: It helps if the other guy is married or attached. (Save your judgments, folks.) Unless he's a psychopath, which you can figure out with pregame conversation, he'll need to be discreet and clean -- he has plenty to lose if he decides to go rogue.

Have fun and be smart. Don't take risks or make questionable decisions.

I'd hook up in public first, then if you hit it off, get a hotel room.

I'd be very uncomfortable with a stranger in my home. Get to know him first and if something seems fishy....cut and run. Trust you instincts.

Hey slinky, did this work out for you? Hope you got a good nut from your new buddy!

Like Mad Dog Mattis said - be nice and polite but always have a plan to kill everyone in the room. Besides that, just have fun.