Any tips on how to find other straight or non open bi guys would be up for mutual jo sort of stuff?

Are there tells out there or good lead ins?

Been wondering that myself - hate to make that wrong read!

Ive been trying in wichita ks to find someone to sate my curiousity

Try on kik

I think normally if a profile says they are "open-minded" they are probably down for m/m play.

I suppose that you mean how can you tell when in the company of other males, rather than on here. I don't know the answer to that as it would depend upon the individual. There is probably a reluctance to find out in case one makes a mistake.

Of course, in certain situations, like nude beaches; well-known cottaging places or even in hidden situations like woodland, it is probably easy to tell who might like to be approached.

If you are referring to on here then just ask them.

I usually tell an account of some kinky sex I had that involved a man and a woman and mention, "our dicks touched a few times but that didn't bother me". If they wig out and say "that's gay man" then they aren't into it, but if they say how hot that was, then more than likely they have played with another men.

I saw a statistic a few years back that said a very high percentage of men's first sexual experiences are homosexual. It was in my case, and I've enjoyed it ever since.

Good suggestion.... have to make it up a little but i get your point. Also thought of leaving some cock porn on my phone and closing it out real quick and see if it sparks anything.

I like this approach. I will give it a try the next time I am traveling and talking with a potential bate buddy at a hotel bar.

Great suggestions from both of you. It is a difficult position in the real world to 'find' that person. Especially the ramifications of you expose your intentions to the wrong person and you are married.

At home i've used contact sites on the net to find buds with similar need for discretion - but it took time. On business trips i've had a few mutual sessions in gym saunas and steam rooms. Once i was chatting with a guy in a hotel bar and he mentioned how he wasn't in a hurry to get home as he wasn't getting any sex from his wife. Not long after we were stroking each other in his room...

Yeah I could see how tough it would be to read especially if you dont want anyone esle to know you are curious as well. gotta find a way to find out without outing yourself. I usuaolly like chatting with fellow curious guys and discussing their fantasies. its pretty hot when you find out you have similar turn ons and fantasies. Any fellow curious guys especially older welcome to message me. I love to chat on skype or through here in the chat room. let me know

If you're closeted it's tough. I use websites, kik etc. I haven't approached a guy in personbut have been approached by guys.

Go to a gay bar.If you are curious there are other curious males/females there as well. I went to a country bar that I found out later was Gay/Bi/Lesbian and Trans.I had Fun.