I found vegetables like carrots are inconspicuous and can be shaped for great anal play. Even elongated potatoes or sweet potatoes of various diameters are also great. You need something that is firm and wont mush up. A firm cucmber and zucchini might also do if not over-ripe.

It is easy to shape ridges and cockhead-like grooves into vegetables like carrots and potatoes, because what i found is titillating is the change in anal stretch as you push it in and out. This is a game of painful-pleasure that is addictive. Eventually you'll be looking at every grocery item (bottles, cans and jars etc) of increasing diameter to push the limits. Always going slow but with resolve.

As lube I have used butter, coconut oil, olive oil, hand cream, shower gel, saliva. Once the arse muscle gives yu the go ahead, you will produce your own goo, which if you have cleaned yourself out and not shitty, is white-yellow cum-like and sweet tasting. I love it.

I'm happy to share my experience with other. email me or skype me (see profile). I really love chatting and more with like minded.

Your anus has a lot of nerve endings, which makes anal stimulation very pleasurable. And once you feel the pleasure of cumming with a finger or dildo pressed against your prostate, you'll never go back.

DON'T use soap for lube - it'll sting and burn. Any type of "personal lubricant" will work, but water-based types tend to get absorbed, and you have to re-lube frequently. There are some lubes made specifically for anal sex, but I haven't tried them. An oil-based lube like Albolene lasts longer, but make sure it is compatible with any toys or condoms that you use.

It doesn't need to hurt (unless you want it to). Start with a finger. Push your finger in, and if it feels uncomfortable, back it out. Try again, and go a bit deeper. Keep repeating, until you can take your entire finger. The same process goes for toys. I'd start with a small, conical butt plug. These are tapered, so the make it easy to find your comfort level and work up. You can also place condoms over your toys to make clean-up easier.

You can probably feel your prostate as a small bump on the forward part of your rectum. Press against it, especially on the out-stroke, to help express pre-cum. You don't need to go big or deep to stimulate it. A 5" dildo works fine for me.

PLEASE use only toys designed for anal stimulation - don't improvise. You can buy them online without embarrassment. Going to the ER to have a shampoo bottle removed from your rectum is infinitely more embarrassing. You can see my collection of toys here .

good advice here.
Agree, the yellow juice is a nice goo to eat.

Basically you'll want to massage your prostrate. Nothing does that better than anal beads or the bullet type of massagers. I'd say go with a bullet. It's small and you won't need a ton of lube and you won't be painful stretched. I'd use a gel for lube. Put a bit on your finger and work it around and in to your asshole. Then lube the bullet. Then press it against your hole and keep constant pressure until you've relaxed enough for it to slide in. Oh I would suggest staying away from wireless bullets. Once it's inserted turn it on to its lowest setting and enjoy. You will find that you will leak ALOT of precum during the session and your orgasm will be amazing. Once you nut, your asshole will tighten up and you may feel a little discomfort pulling it out but that's why gel is better than a liquid lube.

I don't do it every time, just save it up for those special ones. A well lubed sharpie in a latex glove I find is ideal. Start with fingering around the hole, use the glove if you feel squeamish, then take your hand out the glove and pop the sharpie into one of the fingers.

It is absolutely wonderful and there's no risk of losing anything as you have hold of the rest of the glove. I'm getting a hard-on just thinking about it.

so, did you actually try it yet?