I turned 33 today and I'm still a virgin, still haven't had a girlfriend and obviously haven't come even close to anything changing. I become more and more addicted and obsessed with masturbating and worshiping celebs/jerking to porn as the days and months and years go by (which by the way I didn't think was possible anymore.) This may come off as a cry for help but it's not. I accepted a very long time ago that this is just the way it's supposed to be for me and I couldn't change now even if I wanted to. I'm a pathetically weak, very shy, small dicked virgin masturbator and I wouldn't want it any other way. I'm sorry for the long post but I just felt like saying all of this since it's not like there's anyone I can tell in real life, not that I have any friends to begin with but that's besides the point. Anyway I hope you all have a good day.

I don't buy that this is not a "cry for help" or that you feel good about yourself. Labelling yourself as "pathetically weak" on an internet forum is about as close to a cry for help as I can think of.

Work on your body confidence first. Lift weights and eat well.

Work on your shyness. Start slowly to build confidence.

Men like you can end up suicidal or worse (see all these "incels" getting guns....). You have one life to live.

And try getting a bj from a guy who doesn't judge you!!!

This is the second time I written these lines kind of sort of. I lost the original.

You should not feel shy or ashamed post here. You did a good job of telling us your story. I fucked a lot in my life. Now I no longer flock. I'm 71 and my dick Harley gets hard enough to masturbate. So I play with it and gives me pleasure to play with it. When I get it hard enough long enough sometimes it comes. I love when it comes. And when it does I feel great relaxation. If I could get it hard it would matter. I couldn't fuck my wife because she doesn't have the biology for it anymore.

So masturbating is fine for some of us. Is a better to have Fox no longer be able to fuck? Or is it better to have never fucked Emily masturbate? Somebody once wrote these questions as related to wealth. Is it better to have never been rich, never suffered losing wealth ? Or is it better to have been rich and lost her wealth?

I hope that you can post a picture of your dick soon. I know it cost money for the hardware and software.

I'm sorry if I came across like a douche. But you can't underestimate the importance of physical contact, I think. We're hard wired for it.

There's nothing to be ashamed of because there are many people just like you. But my guess that you're not 100% happy, because why else would you post?

I think having more confidence in your body will help. Do you work out?

Do you get massages? That might help you feel more loose with other people touching you and seeing you naked. It can be scary... I developed later in life too.

If you have insurance, it could help to see a mental health professional. I won't pretend to know what's going on in your head (we're all different), but hopefully with regular help, your doctor and you can work through it together.

I can't stress how valuable I've found it in dealing with various life issues over the years.

Gonna add my 2 cents. I was never a ladies man. Ive only ever been with two women. One was my first ever sex experiment and the second i got pregnant and married. Ill be very honest. I remember clearly my first experience with sex with the first girl. I was very let down. Just wasnt what i always thought it would be. I always felt better masturbating and still do. I tried getting with a couple of guys. It was fun but i still would rather jack off. Dont really feel like a loser though.

My .02 is this and I am really not trying to be trite here. I suggest that you do all of the above. By that I mean that by posting here you really have taken the first step towards getting a handle on your issues, even though you may not recognize it as such. First you made a laundry list, shy, weak (physically let's say),no girlfriend, virgin, small dick. Add to that you stroke your cock off a lot. So yes figure out if your insurance covers it and if so go see a therapist. That said seeing one is not the only part of the process, it's just a step. This works best when you take ownership of your issues and take some steps toward dealing with them, some of which have been mentioned. First, it's just a fact nowadays that you need to work towards a goal of being fit. that means think through a basic, not crazy exercise routine and focus on trying to eat more healthy, again nothing crazy. However working out without a goal is really hard so I suggest that your goal in getting fit is not in wowing a girl out of her clothes, with a body builder body, no. The goal is to get fit enough so that you can engage comfortably in some activity that people / do, maybe just riding a bike, or paddling a kayak comfortably. whatever the activity is if you can do it comfortably it will put you in contact with people, some of which will be women. So just an example of a plan, would be get fit enough to paddle a kayak for a couple miles on an easy stream, sign up at REI for some small group beginner kayaking lessons. you do that for a while and like it then normally naturally a small group will meet up to go out on the water and paddle somewhere for an afternoon, people see that you are comfortable in doing it and having fun they warm up to you and you get to know them. social relationships develop like that. The virgin thing is a non issue , why because you are jacking. If you edge you will have more stamina when you do finally get together with a woman so masturbation is not a sad crutch, it is really part of your exercise program you are training up the guy to be in shape for when his time comes. no rush. On the little dick thing, don't sweat that either, there is a whole group of women out there who want that. I know because when they see mine they run away screaming, lol. Seriously, the last woman I went out with to this day claims that had she known my stuff was big she would never have given me the time of day. Again, don't sweat size or the fact that you are still waiting for your turn at bat, it will come, just relax about it and try not to rush it. In sum, just get reasonably fit, find some fun activity to do, get out of the house and enjoy the activity, as long as it is something normal like not a vampire look a like club, but bike riding, then you stand a good chance of meeting others and developing relationships. Do all of this while you are seeing a therapist so they help you when you hit the inevitable hurdles. Best of luck.

It's really quite simply shyvirginguy27...as a matter of fact your situation couldn't be more easily resolved. You only have 2 choices Mate. 1)Take whatever action is necessary to change your lifestyle (If that is what you really want to do) to one that you are happy with....or 2) Do nothing and learn to accept your current lifestyle is the way things are going to be. But of one thing you can be absolutely certain. No matter how many people you talk to about this and no matter what advice they give you.....only You and you alone, can decide what you are going to do....change or remain the same. It really doesn't get much easier than a choice of 2 different alternatives.

This is very true. That said if you decide to make a change, then my advice kicks in. If not, relax about it a shift your goals from being with a woman to becoming a champion self sexual machine and enjoy every second of pleasing yourself. Enjoy.

I've fucked lots of women and been with many men too. I've been to sex clubs, gang bangs, and threesomes. My #1 favorite sexual activity is masturbating.

I enjoy the other stuff obviously, but I'm an extrovert and an exhibitionist. I love being in crowds and showing off. I can totally understand how being introverted and shy would make any sexual component less desirable.

People are different. I'm sitting in my room, alone, masturbating as I type this. I couldn't wait for my wife to get out of bed so I can relax and get myself off.

Incels like yourself are increasing in number which is why, I think, husbands like myself who are married to good looking mature wives can be of help by encouraging you to wank over our wives and also, if requested tell you more about them to increase your masturbation pleasure
We are in touch with several incels like yourself who enjoy hearing about our fucks and also sometimes get a gift of her worn tights or used panties

OMG yes - so grateful to lucky hubbies like you

Its all good, you're accepted here. You don't have to change or anything.

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if your happy then fuck the begrudgers no one has the right to judge anyone else as long as their happy and doing no one else any harm. But if you are in a bind like some of the more knowallagable posters seem to think you are try going to see a nice escort most of them aren't like the stereotypical drug addicts or oppressed women, their actually very kind compassionate women who don't care what you look like and are as good as any therapist to talk to. I'm no George Clooney and I have ongoing health issues I like the single life over all but also love women both in a sexual and social context they can make you see things from a different perspective. I have plenty of women friends but never had the confidence to try getting into a romantic relationship with them I started visiting escorts in my twenties and as i got to see the bullshit in some relationships and marriages of people i know i desided they weren't worth the hastle anyways with an escort you get the physical and emotional closeness we all crave some times i don't do it very often once twice a year at most but it works for me usually a nice film book or a good wank and my fleshlight's are good enough for me but it's nice to be able to visit those beautiful compassinote ladies when the mood hits me.