Don't you find it old just JO all the time? Gosh, I wish I just had someone to hang out with. I don't care what we do. Just someone else company would be great.

Hey, I agree it would get old to just JO alone all the time. You are in Colorado, that's a great, very scenic state. Do you get out at all? I've been to Denver, that's a great city. Maybe you can try and get out and socialize more? I don't want to oversimplify your predicament, but I wish you luck in your search for someone to hang out with.

One answer to your problem is to find a buddy who also loves to masturbate and enjoy JO together.

Yeah I get what you mean, but been doing it so long that I can't stop, and I can't stop watching porn, it's a vicious cycle. A masturbation (and mutual cock sucking) buddy would be nice, we'd watch porn all day long.

Why would you want to stop working your cock and watching porn? Did porn stop making you hard? Did it stop feeling good to slide your hand up and down your hard cock over and over? If neither of those things stopped giving you pleasure then why stop? Yes go out and do stuff in the world but why give up making your self feel so good in the process.

Ok, no I do not find it old to jack my cock daily, or more than once a day. If I get bored with a certain type of porn I choose other genres. If my cock stops feeling good when I stroke it one way, I stroke it another. Again of course get out in the world and enjoy life. If you like walking, join a local walking or hiking club. If kayaking is your thing, or bowling etc, find a club locally join up and do some events, meet regular people , brush up on those people skills and just have regular non cock jacking conversations. If you are not happy about your body, join an gym, sit down with a trainer, figure out your goals and setup a workout plan to get there. When you come home after work and after doing these activities, strip your clothes off, lube your cock jack it like a wild monkey until your cum sprays wildly, hit the shower and get some rack time. rinse and repeat the next day. Enjoy.

I was 19, and swore off women, early in college.

I was tired of women complaining if I acted like a computer geek. This was before being a 'techie' was chic. They also bitched if I gained 5lbs., especially when some weighed as much as me, as I always liked curvy women.

I went on nearly a full year without dating. I gained 40lbs. and did a shitload of porn ... I mean a shitload. I even tried going 'born again Christian' at one point, but that just made me have more answers.

And then I realized the obviousness of the truth.

I'm the only one that can make myself happy. And I started applying that to everything I did. That babe in the magazine? When I got off, I fucking loved it. I smiled, like we really enjoyed it together. Even said, as cheesy as it sounds, 'She's lucky that wasn't for real!'

I started thanking my Creator for making me a man, able to enjoy beauty, curves and everything else. I stopped thinking negatively about any ex-girlfriend, even the ones who cheated on me, and would only remember the fond things. The ones that made me love them.

I refused to let anything negative keep me down, and my entire attitude changed. I still 'worked out,' but I stopped trying to be a 'trophy body' for women. If a woman said, 'you'd be even hotter if you dropped 15lbs.,' or, 'it would be better if you didn't talk about your job and your geeky friends,' I smiled and said, 'thank you,' and crossed them off my list.

About 3 months later ... I met my wife, and want to marry her within days. She was the first woman to love me for who I am, not what I looked like or how fit I was or 'geez, you really are a geek under that jocksuit!' And everyone told me she was a mistake too, for all sorts of reasons, from friends to parents. My mother even basically gave me the shittiest of comments when I got engaged.

I also don't know if my marriage would have lasted (nearly 25 years now -- and yes, we met very young), if I wouldn't have changed my attitude before I met her. I probably might have not even dated her too, which makes me cry when I think about it. But I'm glad it all happened like it did.

I know this sounds over-simplified, but find whatever to make you happy. Start looking at the good in anything, never the negative.

I hope you find a friend ... but find yourself too. Find the ability to be content ... completely alone. Because then you'll find far more.

At least that's what happened for me. Although my apologies if you didn't find this helpful.

You live in Colorado. One of the most beautiful States. Do you know what I'd give to live Stateside? You wanna live here, then you'd be REALLY depressed and REALLY lonely

Make it a routine to go out a few days a week. Hit the coffee shops, the stores, cjeck out the girls (or guys). I guarantee they'll be a lot hotter there than here. Go for for a walk or hike. Switch the days up. Make some connections. Seriously, you are a lucky man to live where you are. I hope you find what you're looking for. As for jerking off...why stop?

I never get bored of wanking myself off.

I think the primary issue is him feeling lonely.. I have struggled with this myself since my divorce 6 years ago.. It was an extreme shock to the system to go from married with two lively spirited and funny wonderful teen girls down to nothing but a rented room and the sound of a clock ticking on the wall ... every second... of every hour.. of every day.. of every week.. of every month.. all because of my obsessive porn use and getting caught too often etc.

I had panic attacks and all kinds of horrible depression.. but it is true.. as a few have said here.. we have to force ourselves to go out and go places.. I don't know if you live out in the wilds where nobody is.. but if it is that bad.. consider moving to a more populated area if you can.. I wish you well sir.. but for got sakes... keep strokin!!! Sometimes.. it's all we got.. and damn we can be our best friends at times.. hehe.. but seriously peace to you brother.

I'm very fortunate that I masturbated in front of my wife on our second date. I told her I did it three times a day and she said as long as I still wanted to be with her she was fine with it. We'll be married 23 years tomorrow and I'm looking at porn stroking my cock as she's getting dressed 10' from me.

Masturbating is my favorite sexual activity and if I found myself alone, I'd be more interested in a jerk off bud than a woman.

That's just it, I can't stop. Porn will always make me hard, no matter what. It always feels good to stroke my cock.

I still have a life outside of masturbation and porn, but it would be nice to have a buddy. I'd like to stop, but I know I can't and never will. And I can't give up being on this site. I'm not very good with sacrifice.

I've had girlfriends; submissive and kinky. The whole spectrum. Nothing beats a good fucking wank. No drama, no disease. There is nothing wrong with loving oneself.

To everyone out there, who are depressed and lonely, I would suggest, that you get some interests out of the house, where you meet people. Voluntary community work, games (board games like chess or backgammon), evening classes are all a start. Relocate to a place with enough people, however a place that is agreable to you. Make financial allowances to have a social life. And be active and outgoing yourself - in most cultures, no one will probably come to knock on your door. I know it may sound general and simplified, but facing a bad situation, assessing your ressources and laying out a plan for meeting people is a start. Best of wishes - and good luck.

And P.S.: in a forum like this, there really should be a place for guys to ask others for help and suggestions. Possibly many of us have encountered similar problems and personal situations as the JC profile next to us. The collective sum of our experiences, different ages, cultures, ideas, solutions, mistakes, et cetera might throw off some really good pieces of advice to those in need.

A wonderful post as were a couple others.. brothers supporting each other... so nice to hear.. I support this as well a forum for support.. however maybe that is what the coffee shop forum could be used for.