put my room on ypur database

https://whereby.com/usemyukwifepics

A nice idea. But how does it successfully overcome the problems you have pointed out and others? Especially when sites such as this and bateworld and others have or have not to some degree? It would take a strong community or group of some number of guys, that could be a strong committed core. Good luck with the idea, but there are some tall hurdles to overcome to achieve success.

verify the people who meet and name and shame the timewasters

I'd be very up for supporting this. Am on another site where verifications/reviews are a thing and it definitely helps!

Why not use Adultwork for this? You could create a profile and then use its search tool to look for str8 male, age, region, whether you can accommodate etc (plus it has ratings) but you'd also need to state that you're only into wank meets. Some guys might even pay to have a wankbud too and that might reduce the no-shows?

I'm on another site where you can't verify people if you're not varified, so varifications can't mean a thing, as how does someone even get varified in the first place if you need to be varified to give a varification.....